As I stated in my chapter one, my intention with this series of blogs is to be in the position of saving a relationship. If I can help you, I will be most happy. Let me know, ok? Now, let us go into the topic of this post. THIS IS A DIFFERENT VIEW FROM WHAT YOU HAVE READ SO FAR and this is chapter 8.
Have you been recently through a break up, and you are wondering "how can I get back into the position of saving a relationship?” You may want to get back with your ex immediately, and this is not an uncommon feeling that everyone, who has been there, experiences.
You may find yourself falling into an emotionally depressed state, and you wonder what to do. You could even feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this going to help you? What it is probably going to do is not allowing you to be in a position of saving a relationship.
Listen. What I am going to tell you is probably what you have heard not to do. Fair. But I am writing it because it has worked well for me. They will tell you to do exactly the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Well, they will tell you: Don't! The reason why I would call my ex is to make us both a favor. If I want him/her back I just have to say it (providing I have the arguments to convince her/him). See, what you do not want to do is to waste anybody’s time. If you did something wrong, acknowledge it and say you are sorry (only if you really are). If she/he did something wrong, invite your ex to talk it over. Maybe there was a misunderstanding or so. But the basic advice is to be honest with you and your ex about saving a relationship. Follow these three basic steps and you will see results.
Step 1 – Saving a Relationship: Accept the Break Up!
Do not deny the obvious. Accept the break up if it has happened. The idea behind this is to eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Now, this does not mean that you will not undertake any action to get back with you ex if that is what you want. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you, too.
Step 2 - Saving a Relationship: Contact your ex if you do not want to waste time!
Even though your partner might need some “thinking time” if you know what you want and want things to work out (providing the other party wants this too), this could be an important step towards attaining this goal. Do not follow the advice of cutting communication off with him or her unless she or he asks you to do so.
Step 3 - Saving a Relationship: Plan Ahead your Relationship
Once you have completed the two steps mentioned above, you can start working on planning your new relationship. Be open and frank. The best relationships I have been involved into are the ones that have been bases on trust and mutual respect.
"How to get back with my ex?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.
